Day 4
The Way You Speak to Yourself Matters
The voice you hear most is your own. Day 4 looks at the words you say to yourself — and how changing them changes everything.
Watch on YouTube“What if there’s nothing wrong with you?”
Living The Beat
Daily reminders to remember who you are.
Living The Beat is Reverend Shari Scott’s daily video series on love, healing, truth, presence, and purpose — a short pause each morning to come back to yourself. This page is home base for all of it: the videos, the monthly newsletter, every place to follow along, one-on-one coaching with Reverend Shari Scott, and her work as a wedding officiant.
- New video
- Every morning, 4am PT
- The series
- 30 days · 5 pillars
- Home
- Mesa, Arizona
The 30-day journey
Five pillars, one practice
The 30-day series moves through five pillars across four weeks — Truth and Presence share a week. Choose a pillar to see what it holds.
Love
Week 1 of 4 · The foundation
Everything starts here. Before love is something you earn, prove, or chase, it is something you remember — the series opens by questioning what you were taught about love, starting with the very first reminder: you are not your past.
“Who taught you that you had to earn love?”
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The latest reminders
A new Living The Beat video lands every morning at 4am PT. Start with the newest ones here — each is under a minute.
Day 3
Love Isn’t Something You Earn
“Who taught you that you had to earn love?”
Day 3 goes at the belief that love has to be deserved — and what opens up when you let that belief go.
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Day 2
You Are Not Your Past
“Your past is part of your story, but it isn’t the whole story.”
The video that opened the series on YouTube: you are more than what happened to you.
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Visit the YouTube channel
Episode 1 — “Remembering What Love Is” — the first longer Living The Beat conversation, on the pillar of Love. Premieres Nov 18 — Wednesday, November 18, 2026 at 4am PT on YouTube.
Coming soon · The first Living The Beat book
Love — The Foundation is on its way
Remembering Who You Truly Are
I’m writing a book for each of the five pillars — and Love comes first, because everything starts there. This is the pillar we opened the series with: love isn’t something you earn, the way you speak to yourself matters, and you are so much more than what happened to you. The daily reminders were just the beginning — the book goes deeper.
“We do not become love. We remember that we are love.”
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Book one of fiveOne book for each pillar — Love, Healing, Truth, Presence, and Purpose.
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Being written nowLove — The Foundation is underway, and I plan to finish writing it by June 30, 2027.
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The waitlist hears firstWhen the book is ready, the people on this list are the very first to know.
With love,
Shari
The monthly newsletter
One letter, once a month
The Living The Beat newsletter gathers the month’s reminders into one unhurried read — the themes, the lines worth sitting with, and what’s coming next. Every issue is posted here in full.
Issue No. 1 · November 2026 · Theme: Love
Remembering What Love Is
Read Issue No. 1
A note from Shari. Welcome to the first Living The Beat letter. This series began with a question I can’t stop asking: what if there’s nothing wrong with you? Every morning’s video is a small reminder to remember who you are — and once a month, this letter pulls the threads together.
This month: Love, the foundation. We opened the series by loosening the past’s grip on the present:
“Your past is part of your story, but it isn’t the whole story.” — Day 2, You Are Not Your Past
Then we turned to the belief underneath so much striving — that love is a wage instead of a birthright:
“Who taught you that you had to earn love?” — Day 3, Love Isn’t Something You Earn
And on Day 4, we listened to the voice doing the striving: the way you speak to yourself matters, because that voice is the one you live with all day long.
Premieres Nov 18. Episode 1, “Remembering What Love Is,” is the first longer Living The Beat conversation — a slower, deeper sit with this month’s pillar. Watch it on YouTube when it premieres Wednesday, November 18, 2026.
A question to sit with. What would change if you stopped defining yourself by your past? Sit with it this week — and if a morning video answers it for you, I’d love to hear about it in the comments.
With love,
Shari
- No. 1 Remembering What Love Is November 2026 · Read above
- No. 2 The Healing Issue December 2026 · On its way
One-on-one coaching
Coaching with Reverend Shari Scott
The daily videos are a reminder for everyone. Coaching is where that same practice gets personal — just you and Reverend Shari Scott, working one-on-one on your life, your leadership, and the way you speak to yourself and the people around you.
Reverend Shari Scott is a leadership coach and business consultant, and a Communication Coach. Her one-on-one coaching brings Living The Beat off the screen and into conversation: honest, warm, and focused on remembering who you are — then living from there. If a morning reminder has ever landed like it was meant for you, coaching is a chance to sit with it properly, together.
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Life coaching & personal developmentWork through what’s in front of you — a transition, a stuck place, a quiet knowing that something needs to change.
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Leadership & workplace coachingFor leading a team, running a business, or finding your footing at work — with clarity about how you show up.
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Communication coachingDrawing on Shari’s Landmark Communication Coach training — how you speak to yourself, and how you speak so others can hear you.
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Purpose & next stepsThe fifth pillar, in person: getting clear on what this season of your life is actually for, and what comes next.
1Reach out
Send the form with a few words about what you’d like to work on.
2Talk first
Shari replies so you can talk it through and see if coaching is the right fit.
3Begin together
Meet one-on-one and do the work, at a pace that fits your life.
Marriage officiant
Weddings with Reverend Shari Scott
Alongside Living The Beat, Shari serves couples as a marriage officiant — Reverend Shari Scott, based in Mesa, Arizona — and happy to travel anywhere across North America for a wedding. It’s the same heart as the series, in person: love in motion, on the day it matters most.
Your ceremony should sound like you — not like a script read a hundred times. Shari works with each couple to shape a ceremony around your story: how you met, what you promise each other, and the people standing with you. Spiritual, heartfelt, light-hearted, or a blend — the tone is yours.
And a word from Shari, plainly: she is part of the LGBTQ+ community herself. So if you’re an LGBTQ+ couple, know that you are welcomed and celebrated here — by someone from your own community, who honors your love story exactly as it is.
Ceremonies Shari officiates
Big celebration or just the two of you — every ceremony gets the same care, and the same heart.
Full weddings
The whole day, with everyone you love gathered round — a ceremony shaped to hold it all.
Intimate ceremonies & elopements
Small, close, and deeply personal — a handful of people, or just the two of you and your witnesses.
Vow renewals
Say it again, knowing what you know now — honoring the years behind you and the ones ahead.
Commitment ceremonies
For couples marking their commitment in their own way, with words that tell the truth about their love.
What working with Shari includes
From the first conversation to the moment you’re pronounced married, you’re not doing any of it alone.
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A consultation, firstShari sits down with you — in person or by video — to hear your story: how you met, what you love about each other, and what you want the day to say.
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A ceremony written around youYour story, woven into a ceremony that sounds like you — never a script read a hundred times.
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Help shaping your vows & readingsFinding the words can be the hardest part. Shari helps you shape vows that sound like you, and choose readings that fit.
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Rehearsal guidanceWalk through the ceremony ahead of time so the day itself feels easy.
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Officiating on the dayShari leads your ceremony herself — calm, warm, and fully present, so you can simply be in the moment.
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The paperwork, handledShari signs your marriage license after the ceremony so it’s official.
1Say hello
Send an inquiry with your date and where you’re celebrating.
2Meet & plan
Talk with Shari about your story and the ceremony you want.
3Your day
Shari leads the ceremony — calm, warm, and entirely yours.
Couples coaching — for the marriage, not just the day
The wedding is one beautiful day. The marriage is everything that comes after — and Shari cares about both. Alongside officiating, she offers couples coaching in the time leading up to your wedding: unhurried conversations to talk honestly about what you’re building together — how you communicate, what you each hope for, and how you’ll walk through the hard days as well as the joyful ones. It’s the same Living The Beat heart: preparing for the marriage the ceremony begins, so you start it strong, clear, and truly together. Interested? Just mention it in the inquiry form, and Shari will tell you more.
Based in Mesa, Arizona — and happy to travel
Shari calls Mesa, Arizona home. Getting married somewhere else? She is happy to travel anywhere across North America to stand with you on your day. Wherever your love is being celebrated, she’ll come to you — just send the form above with your date and location, and start the conversation.
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Everywhere Living The Beat lives
The same daily reminder, on every platform. Pick your favorite — or collect them all. Note the spellings: Instagram and Threads use sharilivinthebeat; TikTok uses sharilivesthebeat.
About Reverend Shari Scott
Reverend Shari Scott has spent more than two decades helping people remember who they are — first in boardrooms and contact centers, and now through Living The Beat.
Before Living The Beat, Shari spent 21+ years leading teams and developing leaders — work that taught her how people communicate, what makes them shut down, and what helps them come back to themselves. She is a communication coach, trained in Landmark’s Team, Management, and Leadership Program, and for the past nine years she has coached individuals, entrepreneurs, and leadership teams as co-founder of Life Brand Designs, helping people communicate with clarity, presence, and confidence.
Today she also serves as Director of Operations at SOILK — Serving Others in Loving Kindness — helping put love into action through service in the community, work that flows from the very same heart as Living The Beat.
Living The Beat is where it all comes together. Shari has always been drawn to the truth of who we are — beyond the roles, the doing, and the noise of the world. Her teaching is a practical spirituality: growth is not about becoming someone else, but about remembering who you have always been. Through the daily series, her coaching, her weddings, and her first book, Love — The Foundation, she invites you to come as you are — and to live in the beat of your own heart.